INTJ Wiring of the Mind. Hey it’s Joel Mark Witt from Personality
Hacker. As an INTJ your mind is fundamentally wired
differently from other personalities. You’ve probably already heard that you are an introvert,
intuitive, thinker, judger. And a lot of articles and resources focus on the behaviors you show
the world as an INTJ. Behavior can be helpful – but it isn’t the
complete picture when figuring out your personality. I want to give you a peek inside your mind
to expose the mental wiring that makes you an INTJ.Let’s get started. Your four letter code INTJ gives us insight
into how your mind is learning information and making decisions. The primary way your mind sees the world is
by using a mental process we’ve nicknamed “Perspectives.” It’s technical name
is Introverted Intuition. When looking at the world – Perspectives is
interested in finding deep insight. It tends to ask a lot of discovery questions, like:
What is the meaning of knowledge? What are the long-range implications of emerging
technologies? How are two people in an argument actually
agreeing without realizing it? Imagine a four passenger car. If one of your mental processes could drive
– it would be Perspectives. Using this mental process puts you in flow. You’ve been using
it your whole life. It’s your reality filter and informs what captures your attention. If Perspectives is how you see the world as
an INTJ, then the mental process we’ve nicknamed Effectiveness is how you make your best decisions.
Effectiveness is a thinking process and asks the question, “What works?” or “What
gets the job done?” without regard to personal feelings.Think about that four passenger car
again… if Perspectives is in the driver seat – then Effectiveness is in the front
passenger seat. It is your Co-Pilot mental process and what we call your growth state. Of course – this is a four passenger car so
you also have two mental processes in the backseat. Sitting right behind the Co-Pilot is a mental
process we call Authenticity. Authenticity asks the question “Does this feel right
to me?” It’s a feeling process concerned with how the events in your life impact you
on a subjective emotional level. When not used in a healthy way Authenticity can cause
an INTJ to become an idealistic perfectionist or emotionally self-protective. This mental process has the development of
about a ten year old child. Finally – behind the driver of Perspectives
sits a mental process we’ve nicknamed Sensation. We call this your blind spot or three year
old mental process. Sensation is all about real time kinetics, and understanding the
world through your physical senses by being fully immersed in the here-and-now. Notice – we haven’t talked about INTJ behaviors.
Instead, I’ve been talking about the mental wiring of your mind. Behaviors can only give
us clues to how your mind is wired. It’s far more interesting to dive into WHAT CAUSES
our behaviors as people. Here at Personality Hacker – We don’t talk
about personality types for their own sake. We think understanding your personality is
one of the best ways to frame your personal growth journey.And we attract INTJs who are
interested in personal growth.Next up – I want to talk about the best way to grow yourself
as an INTJ. Remember the car model we used to show the
mental wiring of your personality? As an INTJ your Co-Pilot is the mental process called
Effectiveness (it’s technical name is Extraverted Thinking). This is what we call your growth position.
It’s the highest leverage point for growth in your personality. Effectiveness allows you as an INTJ to make
decisions that will help you build something in the external world by asking “What works?”
Here are some ways that an INTJ can phrase questions using their Effectiveness process… Will this investment work and give me a return
on my money? If I implement this idea in the real world
– will it get me closer to my goals? Will it work well to host my entire family
at my house this Holiday Season or would it be more effective to take the kids to my parent’s
house? Effectiveness encourages you as an INTJ to
apply your ideas and concepts in the real world, and receive feedback on the quality
of those ideas. Effectiveness encourages you to make something happen – launch a project
– or build something. It’s easy for an INTJ to spend a lot of
time thinking and idea generating. But if those ideas and thoughts are never tested
in the real world – you will always feel like something is missing. Growing your Effectiveness can be a challenge
for you as an INTJ. It can feel like a threat to your ideas to have them vetted in the real
world. Every personality type tends to avoid growing
their co-pilot mental process. But here lies the power of understanding your personality.Don’t
see your Effectiveness as something to delay or avoid – embrace getting into this mental
process because it gives you the opportunity to test your ideas and become an empowered
INTJ. Effectiveness also encourages an INTJ to get
out of the ‘perfectionism’ cycle, replacing it with the concept: “Done is better than
perfect.” No idea is ever perfect and a plan can fail. But nobody’s ever lived in
a blueprint. It works to focus on implementing ideas in
the outside world. It’s a good use of resource and energy to focus on bringing your ideas
into the world so others can benefit. If you want to quickly test and refine your
ideas so they become strong and powerful – you will need to get out of your comfort zone
and refine your ideas in the real world. As an INTJ – your mind is already wired to
make things happen. Don’t ignore this natural talent that you posses. Start asking – “what idea can I build in
the real world?” Spend some focused time getting into action – even before you think
you are ready. Create a rapid prototype of a product or service
you’ve been pondering Practice leadership by finding a project that
can’t be accomplished on your own and requires at least two other people to finish.
Each time you are faced with a challenge – ask yourself how you can set up a real world solution
to handle this challenge – then get into action and create
Speed up your implementation time by getting to the first step in any project as quickly
as possible. This will help you build momentum. Do what it takes to get into implementation.As
an INTJ you will bring the best version of yourself to the world when you get outside
your head and create something in the outer world.We’d love for you – to keep us up
to date about your journey. One of the best places to do that is our Facebook page (Facebook
dot com forward slash Personality Hacker).And of course – come over to Personality Hacker
dot com and leave a comment – ask a question – or take our personality test.Next I want
to talk about the defense strategies your mind uses that steal happiness from you.And
of course – what to do about it. The word defensive. You probably think of
of an emotional state – or someone getting offended in the moment.
“She’s acting so defensive.” someone might say. But I’m not talking about emotions. I’m
using the word positionally. As an INTJ you have a specific area of your mind that you
defend. As an INTJ – That’s your Authenticity process
sitting in the backseat of your car. It has the sophistication of a 10-year-old child.That’s
okay when you use this process to create intimacy or playfulness. The trouble starts when you
begin to allow this 10 year old process to seduce you into a self-indulgent space. As an INTJ, authenticity (it’s technical
name is Introverted Feeling) generally shows up by harboring hurt or self-indulgent feelings.
Authenticity is, in a large part, about introspection and consulting your personal feelings on a
matter. But when you’re using Authenticity defensively
it won’t be about what feels ‘right’, it will be about what feels ‘good’. You
may become afraid to put your ego on the line for a project that might fail – and you could
“feel bad” about yourself or the situation. You need to focus on what needs to get done
and how to do it rather than avoiding bad feelings. If you let your 10 year old of Authenticity
do your thinking for you, it will encourage you to become protective of your self-image
and ego – closed to testing out your ideas in the real world. At worst, INTJs can even become physical shut-ins,
so afraid of being vulnerable that they rarely leave the house and instead choose to keep
preparing for implementation “Someday.” You need to implement and take calculated
risks to prevent becoming self-protective in your choices and worldview.
Don’t let your Authenticity process steal your happiness.The solution is to focus on
growing your Effectiveness process like we’ve talked about before.
As an INTJ, you’re much more productive and happy when you’re focused on goals,
metrics, standards and objective data. If your 10 year old of Authenticity gets into
the mix, it will encourage emotionally and physically indulgent behavior, licking wounds
from the past and being unwilling to do what it takes to get your goals accomplished. I want to hear from you. How are you letting
your 10 year old of Authenticity hijack your happiness? What are the ways you as an INTJ are playing
it safe? You can leave a comment or take our personality
test over at Personality Hacker dot com. Next we’ll talk about how you best show
and receive love as an INTJ.I’ve got two quick lists for you today. First – how INTJs
ask “do you love me.” Second – how INTJs show other people love.
Here are a few examples of how INTJs ask do you love me? Imagine an INTJ asking these
questions: Will you handle things – can I rely on you?
Will you make my life easier, can I relax knowing “you’re on it”?
Will you support my career or personal goals and be self-sufficient?
Are you loyal? Here are examples of INTJs saying “Yes – I
love you” Imagine an INTJ making these statements: I will be endlessly loyal on principle.
I will educate myself on you and learn how you operate.
I will take pride in you, boasting about your accomplishments even before my own.
I will protect you. I chose you. I continue to choose you. Case
closed. As an INTJ you are probably nodding in agreement.
Just remember that other personalities can sometimes see these ways you show love as
controlling, distant or unromantic.Feel free to share with the people in your life how
your mind works. Let them know the ways you show love work for you.
If you want to go deeper in your personal development – we have tons of resources, articles
and recordings about personal development through the lens of understanding your personality. Come over to Personality Hacker dot com.
Next up – let’s talk about where to go next in your personal growth as an INTJ. I have
some action steps for you. We’ve been talking about YOU – the INTJ
personality type. I’ve already detailed the mental wiring of your mind. We’ve talked
about your highest leverage point for growth and shed light on your defensive strategies.
And we’ve outlined how you give and receive love.
So what’s next for you as an INTJ? How will you launch yourself on a personal
development journey that works for YOU?Understanding that each of us have a unique personal growth
path seems obvious. And yet – self help authors and teachers often teach a one size fits all
model of growth. At Personality Hacker – It works well to personalize
your development as an INTJ. So that’s how we’ve designed our frameworks and models.
You now know the mental process to grow yourself as an INTJ is Effectiveness. Most INTJs want to build something that impacts
the world. They want to be an example of turning abstract ideas into real-world systems.
As an INTJ – there’s nothing as rewarding as seeing your idea become reality. The enemy of Effectiveness is self-indulgence.
Effectiveness requires courage and the willingness to get out of your shell. Authenticity can
have you focusing on your fear instead of on the rewards of getting things done. Getting
into action is the only way to prove to yourself that you have what it takes. Set up your conditions to access this mental
process of Effectiveness as much as possible. A good way to practice this technique is to
implement your ideas BEFORE you think you are ready. With the next large project you work on – enlist
the aid of at least three people. Make it your aim to coordinate, delegate and manage
the project, not to engage in the labor directly. Start putting metrics around all the resources
of a project. Which areas are the most difficult for your
team Which areas do you need to ask for help
How will you get your team of people to agree on strategy
Identify which tasks to delegate Match people with their best skills Work on building each of these skills, especially
the ones that are most challenging for you. It’s common for INTJs to feel almost spiritually
satisfied once they conquer their fear of failure and experience their ideas from concept
to reality.. Most of your growth happens by putting your
ideas out into the real world to test their functionality. If you really want a deep dive into your individual
growth plan as an INTJ I invite you to check out our INTJ Personal Development Starter
Kit.You can find more information at Personality Hacker dot com.
Let me know what personal growth actions you are taking in your life and what has already
worked for you.I’m Joel Mark Witt for Personality Hacker.Talk with you soon.